‘Tis the season to be jolly, right? Well, not if you’re a mom-writer caught in the whirlwind of holiday chaos while trying to meet deadlines, market your latest book, and wear more hats than Santa himself. It’s easy to get swept up in the never-ending to-do list; but what if I told you that it’s okay to give yourself the gift of simply being a mom, especially during this festive season? After all, the magic of the holidays is meant to be shared and cherished with loved ones. So, let’s jingle those bells, swap our laptops for taco shells (figuratively, of course), and rediscover the joy of being present with our families.
Let Go of Made-Up Time Horizons
One of the challenges we mom-writers often face is the self-imposed pressure of meeting goals before the year’s end. We set deadlines for ourselves, convinced that we need to achieve a laundry list of writing-related tasks before the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s Eve. But guess what? Those deadlines are mostly arbitrary and entirely negotiable.
This holiday season, give yourself the gift of time. Let go of the made-up time horizons. That blog post you wanted to finish, the social-media campaign you thought was imperative, or that elusive word-count target can all wait. In the grand scheme of things, a few extra days or weeks won’t matter.
Instead, free up your calendar for the best kind of playdate: quality time with your children. Build gingerbread houses, make snow angels, or simply savor the warmth of a cup of cocoa by the fireplace. Give yourself permission to release the pressure and just be a mom. The work can wait; the memories you create with your family can’t.
Carve Out Time for Your Loved Ones
In the midst of your bustling writing career, it’s easy to blur the boundaries between work and family life. Emails, edits, and endless revisions can encroach on precious moments with your children. But this holiday season, it’s time to set some firm boundaries.
Carve out specific blocks of time for your loved ones and make them non-negotiable. Whether it’s a festive family dinner, watching holiday classics together, or taking an evening stroll to admire the twinkling lights in your neighborhood, these moments are invaluable.
Remember, work will always be there; but your child’s wonderment at the sight of a beautifully lit Christmas tree or their giggles as they open their presents are fleeting and precious. So put your writing aside, at least temporarily; and soak in the joy of being present with your family.
Plan Something Fun
Who says that being a mom-writer means you can’t have fun too? In the hustle and bustle of deadlines and daily responsibilities, it’s easy to forget the pure, unadulterated fun that comes with parenthood.
This holiday season, plan something fun. As for me and my house, we will build the Lego! There’s something magical about creating a miniature world with those colorful interlocking bricks. So, set aside the laptop, shut off your work notifications, and dive into the world of imaginative play with your little ones.
Maybe it’s building a Lego winter wonderland or having a spirited snowball fight in the living room (with soft, plush snowballs, of course). Whatever it is, make it a joyful experience that both you and your children will treasure.
Play. Rest. Breathe.
In the frenzy of juggling your roles as a mom, a writer, and a multitasking marvel, it’s essential to remember that being a mom is not only about taking care of your children’s physical needs. It’s also about nurturing their emotional well-being and creating lasting memories together.
So, this holiday season, give yourself permission to let go of unnecessary time constraints, set boundaries around your family time, and most importantly, plan something fun. Jingle those bells, savor those taco shells, and find the time to simply be a mom. The work can wait, but these moments with your family are what truly matter.
Let the warmth of the season embrace you; and remember that the magic of the holidays is not in the completion of tasks, but in the togetherness of loved ones. Enjoy the festivities, dear mom-writer, and make these moments count.
Andrew Budek-Schmeisser
Don’t let the future bring the pain
imposed by time’s harsh strictures,
for loved ones will one day remain
only in their faded pictures,
and you will dread December,
and you’ll regret your choices
when so clearly you remember
the sound of long-lost voices
asking for a bit of time,
eyes hoping that you’ll see to care,
for it is now, and now is prime
for that day comes they won’t be there,
and you’ll be left alone to cast
your heart into a vanished past.
Priscilla Bettis
Have a peaceful, restful, joyful Christmas, Megan!
Sheri Dean Parmelee, Ph.D.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Megan. As a mom, I know how fast they grow up and I encourage folks to not let these special moments pass. Some of my favorite memories include making and decorating (using that term loosely) cookies with my sons. Merry Christmas!
Felicia Harris-Russell
This was soooo refreshing Megan and enjoyable!! Merry Christmas!
Kristen Joy Wilks
Yes!!! Time with our children is so fleeting. As the mother of three sons, my suggestion, have a real snowball fight!!!
Sally Valentine
Thank you for this post. I was just thinking the same thing, myself. Not only do I want to give myself permission to take a vacation from writing and all it entails while I celebrate Christmas, but I want to give permission to editors, publishers, and booksellers to do likewise.
Merry Christmas!
Susan DeWolfe
A wonderful reminder that Life is happening all the time, and things come when God sends them. When my kids were small, and I never finished the to-do lists, a retired and widowed church friend told me that the time would come when I would have more free time than I ever wanted and that those “stolen” moments would be incredibly precious. Now I, too, have grown kids, am widowed, and have retired. She was right, and I am glad I listened. Also, some of the best stories come out of family time. May God bless and keep you and your family.