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Rejection

Tossed by the Ocean of Emotion

By Steve Laubeon September 15, 2025
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It is hard to be a writer or to work in the publishing industry. Everyone defines success differently, and we strive to meet those expectations at every turn.

Often we let “success” define us, especially when a writer is told, “You are only as good as the sales of your last book.” Or an agent is told, “You are only worth the value of your last contract.”

Henri Nouwen, in his book The Return of the Prodigal Son, said it best:

Many of my daily preoccupations suggest that I belong more to the world than to God. A little criticism makes me angry, and a little rejection makes me depressed. A little praise raises my spirits, and a little success excites me. It takes very little to raise me up or thrust me down. Often I am like a small boat on the ocean, completely at the mercy of its waves. All the time and energy I spend in keeping some kind of balance and preventing myself from being tipped over and drowning shows that my life is mostly a struggle for survival: not a holy struggle, but an anxious struggle resulting from the mistaken idea that it is the world that defines me.

To practice a better way is so hard. We are in that boat being tossed by the waves of emotion. It doesn’t help when publishing experts say, “Work harder.” Or “Write faster.” Or “This is the right way.” And another says, “That is the right way.” What are we to do?

Examine Your Beginnings

Think about why you became a writer in the first place. Go back to those roots. What was it that inspired you? The answer is rarely fame or fortune.

Examine Your Motives

What is it that inspires you now? This cuts to the core of why you are doing what you are doing.

Locate Your Anchor

The boat metaphor is appropriate here. If you are being pushed toward the rocks, find that anchor and secure your place in the water. When the anchor holds, it doesn’t matter what the world says, or what an editor says, or what an agent says. “We have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul, a hope that enters into the inner place behind the curtain, where Jesus has gone as a forerunner on our behalf, having become a high priest forever” (Hebrews 6:19-20, ESV).

Therefore, the next time you get the dreaded editing letter,

The one-star Amazon review,

A critical Facebook comment,

A rejection letter from a surly agent…

The next time, drop anchor and ride the emotion. It doesn’t mean you can’t cry a little or can’t get angry for a while; that would be inhuman. But once the storm has passed, you will find yourself still on your journey, following your original calling to write to the best of your abilities, come what may.

 

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Category: Career, Get Published, Rejection, The Writing LifeTag: Career, Get Published, Rejection

Why Are Traditional Publishers So Picky?

By Dan Balowon July 24, 2025
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Publishing books is an imprecise process, with many ingredients involved, making it impossible to predict a particular outcome. Working for and with publishers for most of my life, I’ve seen every side of the business; and the best I can do to describe it is humbling for everyone involved. Anyone who thinks they have it all figured out with 100% certainty is in for a rude awakening and a humbling …

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Category: Book Business, Rejection

Congratulations on Your Rejection!

By Bob Hostetleron March 5, 2025
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You say you got a rejection from an editor, agent, or some other unenlightened knuckle-dragger? Congratulations! No, seriously. I mean it. Congratulations. Because, though rejection feels crummy, being rejected means something. Something good. “What?” you might ask. Let me list the ways. Rejection means you wrote something. Good for you! Rejection means you demonstrated faith in …

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Category: Rejection

When Characters and Settings Go Wrong

By Tamela Hancock Murrayon October 10, 2024
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A few months ago, I didn’t finish a general market book because of the setting and characters. Here’s what I believe happened: The author did not want to write about where she lives, but she needed: A police force allowing a crime scene to be contaminated, along with other sloppy police work. A police force with corrupt and adulterous officers. A remote vacation spot. A coffee shop within walking …

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Category: Rejection, Writing Craft

Unsolicited Proposals: Aka “The Slush Pile”

By Steve Laubeon July 1, 2024
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All literary agents receive dozens of proposals each week. Most are via email these days, but some still come via the post. Last week was a relatively slow week; my office received only 28 unsolicited proposals via email and two in the post. For the month of June, it was around 170 total unsolicited proposals received. (Unsolicited means proposals that are not from our existing clients. We get a …

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Category: Agency, Book Proposals, Get Published, Rejection, SteveTag: Get Published, Pitching, Proposals, Rejection

Writers Learn to Prepare

By Steve Laubeon December 4, 2023
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Preparation is awfully important if you are planning to climb Mt. Everest. If you show up in a T-shirt, shorts, and flip flops, with a sack lunch, it is likely you will perish during the ascent. The same idea applies to the writer. Preparation is one of the keys to success. There Are No Shortcuts Despite numerous methods for efficiency, there is still no shortcut in writing a great book. It is …

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Category: Craft, Rejection, The Writing LifeTag: Creativity, Rejection, Writing Craft

Rejected Books

By Dan Balowon October 25, 2023
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With all the discussion about marketing platforms, some authors think the only thing standing in the way of being published successfully is the lack of a large-enough, personal promotional machine. It is important, along with several other items affecting whether a book is published by a traditional publisher; but there is one powerful item that is rarely discussed or mentioned. Sometimes books …

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Category: Pitching, Rejection, Theology

Handling Disappointment

By Steve Laubeon June 19, 2023
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I do not like to experience disappointment. I do not like rejection, even when it isn’t my personal project being turned down. I do not like to be the bearer of bad news. And yet I do experience disappointment, rejection, and the telling of bad news–every week. That is the nature of the arts. The arts (meaning music, writing, dance, and painting) are comprised of thousands of hours of …

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Category: Encouragement, Faith, Get Published, Personal, Rejection, Theology, Writing CraftTag: disappointment, Encouragement, Faith, Rejection

The Perils of Responding to Criticism

By Tamela Hancock Murrayon June 14, 2023
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Recently, I read a news article about a general-market author who offered a negative response when a reviewer gave her four instead of five stars for her debut novel. She attacked the reviewer, calling her a name I shall not repeat here. The author expressed she was upset that the reviewer had ruined her perfect five-star rating. The author’s response resulted in a barrage of retaliatory one-star …

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Category: Rejection, Reviews, The Writing Life

Rejection: A Fact of the Writing Life

By Steve Laubeon August 15, 2022
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Rejection is a fact of life. Especially the writing life. As one crusty publishing veteran said: “Welcome to the industry that will break your heart.” Makes you feel all warm and fuzzy, doesn’t it? But let me put a little perspective on it. I admire writers. You put your souls on a few pages and send them to strangers and pray for acceptance. How do you do that, day in and day …

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Category: RejectionTag: Get Published, Rejection
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