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Reviews: Friend or Foe?

By Karen Ballon February 18, 2015
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Writers are a fascinating blend of contradictions. Many are introverts who have to do extroverted things—speaking, booksignings, author appearances–and do them well. They are creative, expressive people who, most of the time, live in their heads. And when they are around people, they can seem withdrawn, even remote (mostly because they’re STILL in their heads). They come across as confident and authoritative, and yet many struggle with sometimes overpowering insecurities. And they love honest appraisals of their work…

Almost as much as they hate them.

I saw a post on Facebook a few weeks ago from an author who was taking a review to task for saying what he didn’t like about the writer’s book. Almost immediately people jumped into the fray, putting down the reader/reviewer, calling the person names, saying that person was stupid and should just shut up.

Okaaaayyyyyy.

Listen, I’ve been there. Had books I’ve written torn apart by those who clearly felt they could have done better. Or that I should have done better. I remember one review in particular that was so hurtful it derailed me for months. Every time I sat down to write, all I could think of was that person’s hurtful words. Anger. Frustration. Hurt. Discouragement. A sense of betrayal. It all simmered inside. I worked so hard, and this was the thanks I got??? The more I thought about that reviewer, the more angry and depressed I got. I wrote response after response, each one more blistering than the last. (All of which, thank God, I deleted.)

Because the hard truth is that being criticized is part of this crazy task we’ve taken on. We write. We pour our hearts into what we’re writing. And we pray for our work to be put in the hands of readers. We know, deep down, that not everyone will like or “get” it. And we tell ourselves that’s okay.

Until someone says they don’t like or get it. Or says something mean or bad about us (e.g., the old standby “How can this writer call himself a Christian?”) And when that happens? Boy howdy, look out! We’re not crafters of words for nothin’! Those bits of English suddenly become weapons, knives thrown with keen precision to cut our detractors down to size. Fools! How dare they say such things about my work! Who do they think they are???

Well…readers. That’s who. People with likes and dislikes and opinions to share. And if the Internet and Social Media have done nothing else, they’ve given everyone a platform from which to share said opinions. And you know what? They have a right to do so. Just as we have a right to disagree with them.

Friends, ours is a world overflowing with opinions. And with platforms to express them with impunity. Of course there are times we’ll be offended, or even hurt, by those comments. But I encourage you to not react. Don’t take people to task. Don’t run them down or mock or denigrate them. Instead, let it go. Seriously.

Let it go.

It’s one person’s opinion. Nothing more. Nothing less. And if you really want to rise above the crowd, focus on praying for those who “persecute,” rather than railing at them. It may make no difference at all to those folks, but it will make a huge difference for you. Because your focus will be on what matters most:

Pleasing the One who called you to the task of writing in the first place.

 

 

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Category: Book Business, Book Review, CareerTag: bad reviews, Career

Author Platforms 301 – Part Three – Customer Service

By Dan Balowon February 17, 2015
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This concludes a three part series of posts exploring the issue of author platforms and how to get one.  The Steve Laube agency will offer a downloadable document that will include the three posts plus additional information and resources. The last two weeks we have covered the need for all authors (especially aspiring authors) to develop a “message platform” and some suggestions how to determine …

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Category: Book Business, Book Proposals, Branding, Career, Get Published, Marketing, PlatformTag: Author Platform, Marketing, Platform

Largest Christian Bookstore Chain Declares Chapter 11

By Steve Laubeon February 16, 2015
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In case you missed it, last week the Family Christian Stores chain declared Chapter 11 bankruptcy. (See this link for their press release.) This is newsworthy because Family Christian Stores (FCS) is the largest Christian store chain in the country (when counting number of locations, not necessarily sales revenue), 266 stores in 36 states. In 2014 the chain did $230 million dollars in …

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Category: Book Business, Legal Issues, Publishing NewsTag: bankruptcy, chapter 11, family christian stores, retail, royalties

Pets and Personality

By Tamela Hancock Murrayon February 12, 2015
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Do any of the characters in your novel have pets? When I read about pet ownership, the choice of animal and where they live may say a lot. The use of animals in a story can lend some wonderful texture to your character. It uses some common assumptions about various animals. A few examples: A large dog on a farm means a carefree, rambunctious animal roaming about the place, showing up on the back …

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Category: Craft, Creativity, Writing CraftTag: Craft, Creativity, Writing Craft

Valentine’s Creativity! [Plus a Giveaway]

By Karen Ballon February 11, 2015
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I love to laugh. I’m one of those people who goes into card stores and stands in the aisles, reading the funny cards and chortling. So when I saw some posts on Rejected Candy Heart sayings, I totally cracked up. You know what Candy Hearts are, yes? Those little sugar hearts with sayings such as “Be Mine,”  “Hug Me,” “Real Love”? We’ve all seen them, even exchanged them. In fact, I bought a box of …

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Category: Craft, Creativity, HumorTag: Creativity, Humor

Author Platforms 201 – Part Two – Consistency

By Dan Balowon February 10, 2015
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Starting last Tuesday and continuing today and next week I will be exploring the issue of author platforms and how to get one.  At the conclusion of this series of blog posts, The Steve Laube Agency will offer a downloadable document that will include the three posts plus additional information and resources. __________ Last week, I talked a little about the need to develop a “message platform”, …

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Category: Book Business, Branding, Get Published, Marketing, PlatformTag: Author Platform, Platform

Fun Fridays – February 6, 2015

By Steve Laubeon February 6, 2015
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We are having some absolutely gorgeous weather here in Phoenix this week. But according to this weather report a week ago Tuesday (Jan. 27th) it looked like Summer may have already arrived. Yes, it can get hot in Phoenix, but not sure it has ever been quite this bad… (the places he mentions are all suburbs of Phoenix).

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Personality Quirks

By Tamela Hancock Murrayon February 5, 2015
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We all have personality quirks. These are part of our charm. Some people may think that the fact I have named my three houseplants is a personality quirk. But what other modern living beings would put up with the monikers Perpetua, Magnifica, and Scholastica? When I ask my husband, “Did you water Perpetua?” he knows what I mean. We inherited a large peace lily from one daughter’s …

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Category: Craft, Creativity, Writing CraftTag: Characters

Author Platforms 101 – Part One – Message Platform

By Dan Balowon February 3, 2015
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Over the next three weeks, I will be exploring the issue of author platforms and how to get one.  At the conclusion of this series of blog posts, The Steve Laube agency will offer a downloadable document that will include the three posts plus additional information and resources. __________ The “101” in this blog title indicates it is an introductory piece, the beginning or prerequisite to what …

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Category: Book Business, Branding, Get Published, Marketing, PlatformTag: Author Platform, Marketing, Platform

“Frozen” Fun Fridays – January 30, 2015

By Steve Laubeon January 30, 2015
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In honor of our countrymen buried by snow this past week…three videos taken from your “favorite” movie musical… FROZEN! First is a brilliant acapella medley with two incredible voices… The second is the Star Wars parody version of the song “Do You Want to Build a Snowman?” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0eJeCM60awo And to top them all… A school …

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