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Lies and More Lies

By Tamela Hancock Murrayon June 8, 2017
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Recently Karen Ball wrote a superb blog about lies other people tell us and lies we tell ourselves as writers.  I’d like to talk about lies people tell us.

Christians working through a legitimate disagreement is not the same as what Karen means. She is talking about being attacked, partly because of who you are. And who the attacker is.

I’m appalled by the things people say to each other when riled. A fruit of the Spirit is self-control. Unfortunately, no one always displays restraint. Our tongues reveal our hearts. Self-righteousness is an indulgence on full display when you give in to the urge to attack another person.

Here is how I would interpret the accusations Karen listed, with what I believe may be the accuser’s hidden feelings – feelings the accuser might not be aware of or acknowledge –  italicized. Oh, and if you disagree with my interpretations, I promise not to attack you!

“Those books you write. Those novels. They’re lies!” (It may be helpful to remember that many people believe all writers are rich.)

I resent your success and am willing to accuse you being a liar to try to deflate you.

“Novels are lies!”

I resent the success of Christian fiction, and I don’t understand or want to understand it. Or perhaps I have been taught that fiction is evil. I am angry that another Christian is successful in writing it, and other Christians read it. I have decided both behaviors are sinful and I have appointed myself as the one to tell you that you are sinning.

 “You’re stealing time from your family to write!”

I’d like more time to pursue my own interests but though I love my family, I resent not having that time. Now I’ll try to make you feel awful so I can feel better about myself and convince myself that my decision about how to spend my time is better than yours.

“What do you mean you can’t take on (fill in the volunteer opportunity)? It’s not like you have a real job.”

I’m not getting my way so I’m going to cut you down.

“Why would anyone buy a book you’ve written? You don’t have anything new to say?”

I don’t like or respect you.

I think the famous quote, “Hurt people hurt people,” applies here. Being accused by a hurting person evokes anger and hurt in yourself. And, since church leaders and those you consider friends are among the accusers, your heart throbs with pain.

When attacked, it’s hard not to respond in kind, but turning up the volume means everyone loses. Don’t say you agree with the accuser if you don’t. Instead, exit the situation as quickly as you can. One option may be to say that you will pray about what the speaker said and then change the topic or walk away.

Once you’re alone, keep your word and work through the hurt with Christ by your side. Do not relent (for example, start writing nonfiction or take on the committee chairmanship), unless you have a very clear leading from Him to change. Otherwise, stand firm and continue to be respectful to your accuser, if for no other reason, you may be offering a Christian witness to someone watching the situation, whether you know it or not.

 

Your turn:

Share a time when someone verbally attacked you and your response led to healing.

When was the last time you were tempted to attack someone? What did you do?

 

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Category: The Writing Life

Show Me the Money!

By Karen Ballon June 7, 2017
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I’ll never forget the Sunday I was getting ready to leave church, and the pastor’s wife came up to me and touched my arm. “Karen, my son can’t find a job, so he’s decided to make some fast money by writing a book and having it published. Do you have any counsel for him?” I’m so proud of myself that I didn’t guffaw in her face. Not so proud that I fixed her with a hard look and replied, “Do me a …

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Category: Economics, Money, The Writing LifeTag: Economics, Faith, Money, The Writing Life

The Writer’s Responsibility

By Dan Balowon June 6, 2017
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When you decide to pursue writing as a career or even an avocation, you probably are unaware of the responsibility bestowed upon you by the decision. There is no official ceremony involved, but there should be. This responsibility will change the way you interact with friends and relatives. It could even cause some friction between you and those close to you. Here’s the promise you make, which is …

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Category: Encouragement, The Writing LifeTag: Discouragement, Encouragement, The Writing Life

A Green-Eyed Obstacle

By Karen Ballon May 24, 2017
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I know better. And yet I did it anyway. Not my fault, really. I never would have given in if I hadn’t seen that best-seller list. With that name. That author who started years after I did. Who was getting all the accolades, all the lists, all the awards… I mean, I’d had a book on the bestseller list. So what if it was years ago? So what if the book that mattered most to me got panned by an …

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Category: The Writing Life, TheologyTag: Jealousy, The Writing Life

The Challenge for the Debut Author

By Steve Laubeon May 15, 2017
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What are the chances of a debut author getting a contract with a major publisher? What if the author does not have an agent? It’s always hard to get the first contract for any author. It’s a little like “American Idol” with hundreds, if not thousands, of people in line hoping for their chance. In non-fiction it can be a number of things that help with the process. The “Platform” is crucial for …

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Category: Agents, Genre, Get Published, The Writing LifeTag: Agents, Get Published

The Lies That Bind

By Karen Ballon May 10, 2017
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 Years ago at a writer’s conference I was confronted by a pastor who demanded to know why I promoted lies to God’s family. As you can imagine, I was somewhat taken aback at this accusation and asked the irate man to explain what he meant. “Those books you write. Those novels. They’re lies!” I pointed out that if I was lying by telling stories, then so was Christ seeing as He did the same with the …

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Category: Career, The Writing Life, TheologyTag: Career, Faith, The Writing Life

Are You Sure You Want to Write Great Literature?

By Tamela Hancock Murrayon April 27, 2017
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“′Classic′ – a book which people praise and don’t read.” – Mark Twain At my college preparatory school, our vacations weren’t unfettered thanks to “Summer Reading” that required us to read four books during break. Our list going from seventh to eighth grade was limited to four books so we had no choices. I only remember two – Pride and Prejudice and The Oxbow Incident. I’m sure none of …

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Category: Reading, The Writing LifeTag: Reading, Writing Craft

Obstacles are a Pain

By Karen Ballon April 26, 2017
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You may have noticed that my blog was missing last week. That’s because I’ve been fighting with today’s obstacle: chronic pain. I’ve had a series of headaches and migraines that have made it hard for me to think, let alone write a blog. I’ve dealt with pain before, but this…this ice pick in the temple that doesn’t let up…this assault on the body that had me hiding under the covers in my bed, …

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Category: Personal, The Writing LifeTag: Obstacles, The Writing Life

Five Lessons from the Road to Publication

By Guest Bloggeron April 24, 2017
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Our guest post is by Ginny L. Yttrup who is the award-winning author of five novels including her latest, Home, which released earlier this month. She writes contemporary women’s fiction and enjoys exploring the issues everyday women face. “Publishers Weekly” dubbed Ginny’s work “as inspiring as it is entertaining.” When not writing, Ginny coaches writers, …

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Category: Conferences, Get Published, The Writing LifeTag: Get Published, The Writing Life, Writing Conference

Repeal and Replace

By Tamela Hancock Murrayon April 20, 2017
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Writers live full and demanding lives. Let’s become more focused and productive with my unscientific version of Repeal and Replace! Repeal: Exhaustion. Replace: Go to bed earlier. Even fifteen minutes can help. If you like how you feel, shave off a few more minutes until you find that perfect bedtime. The more often enough rest helps you be vibrant the next day, the more you realize how little you …

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Category: Personal, The Writing LifeTag: The Writing Life
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